Depreciation

Google defines depreciation as “a reduction in the value of an asset over time, due in particular to wear and tear” (Google.com). I thought about this word when last week, I walked into the hospital cafeteria and realized–to my own amazement–that I no longer view this cafeteria as the stunning place that it once were when I first set foot in it, about two months before. The polished red chairs and marble-like tables no longer appeal to me; the papier-mâché decorations hanging from the ceiling have lost their glow (in my eyes at least). I felt that way and I hated it.

…but that is not the worst part…the worst part is that we sometimes treat people–especially those we love–like cars or houses that depreciate over time. It’s like when they [those people]  first come into our lives, we think that they are the best thing since HDTV. We love them, we admire them and in our eyes they can do no wrong. And as time passes by, we forget to keep on appreciating them day in and day out; and that we do not do consciously. We sometimes become so used, so attached, so comfortable with them that we start taking them for granted. We begin to believe that they are always going to be around, that we can always make up for lost time, we forget to keep on loving them, and this is where we are wrong. We don’t mean to stop appreciating them, we just forget to keep on doing it.

People are not like objects that come with a price tag and thus decrease in value over time. No. We are more than that…GOD THINKS SO! WE ARE WORTH A LIFE, THE LIFE OF HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON JESUS CHRIST.

We ought to treat the people that God has placed in our lives with care and diligence and love for as long as we live, much more than we do with the things that we purchase with money. I understand that some days it might be hard to love, but we can’t let those temporary feelings obstruct our deep love and appreciation for those people who are dear to our hearts.

And it starts with the little things, like saying, “Thank you! Please, I love you, I appreciate you, I’m praying for you…” And it ought to stay with the little things, for they are the building blocks of long-lasting relationships. These little things will keep us from looking at our loved ones like assets which lose their value over time…

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So many Modes of Communication, So little Communication

We have so many means to communicate, but are we communicating? In this day and age, there is no reason for losing touch with somebody; the technology just won’t let you. There are basically four modes of communication: face-to-face, video, audio, and text [mailing will fall under that]. Yet it is alarming how we are communicating less today than we did, let’s say 10 years ago. Those of us who are older can attest to this. You don’t need to read a Wall Street Journal article to realize that we have become–as a society–less sociable as a result of technology.

While it is easier now to stay in touch with family and friends through social media and cell phones, we have become disconnected from our surroundings. Think about it: when was the last time you were in a waiting area, and instead of people being on their mobile devices, they were communicating with each other? Or you were on a public transportation, and people were talking to the person sitting next to them? Just think about it. These sights are rarely seen nowadays. About 3 years ago, I was on the bus, and an older lady commented saying, “It’s like the cell phone has become a part of their body, like another organ; they just can’t do without it.” I smiled and nodded because I knew it was the truth. It is true: everyone is on his/her cell phone, not taking the time to connect with the rest of the world. I won’t say the real world, because the technological world is as real as a heart attack.

Sometimes, I just put the phone down and strike a conversation with a stranger. The connection is almost always exceptional, and the result extremely rewarding. Just try it sometimes; it will make your day, but more importantly, you will make another person smile. We are social beings, we need to socialize with those around us. If you are out with friends or family or on a date, put the phone down and have a normal conversation; it’s only right, it’s only fair. I have this rule that I live by: if we are out on a date or what not, I put the phone down because if there is an emergency, I won’t be the first person they call; they would dial 9-1-1. I will find out later.

Try it, take the time to talk to someone next to you. Sometimes, you feel more at ease telling a stranger your secrets, your fears, your problems than you do if you were talking to a familiar face. And you will be amazed by what you learn from that person. There is a lot of people out there who are lonely and just want a lending ear, be that ear to someone today.

There is a vast knowledge out there, and most of it is hidden in people like gold in a minefield.

So, don’t go another day without taking the opportunity to talk to someone other than the people on your phone. Sometimes, a smile is all that is needed. That too is a mode of communication. It requires much less effort, but the feeling is grandiose.

Now, I am not against technology, I think it’s wonderful. But we should not  let technology gets in the way of our lives. We all need someone, and sometimes it’s a stranger that makes all the difference.