Truth & Love

Two things that are as rare as diamond in this world. Sometimes, you wonder where does one begin and the other ends. Truth and love are like siamese twins; like two paints that a painter mixes in order to create a beautiful painting; each one disappears into the other. Truth cannot exist apart from love and neither can love exists apart from truth. You cannot take hold of one and not grab the other. They work in concert with one another.

If you care deeply about someone, in other words, you love that person; then you have an obligation to be truthful to that person because that is how love operates. Yet, we’ve been told over and over that the truth hurts; does it really? Jesus says, “And you will shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32 KJV). Is there pain in freedom? Yes. History taught us that. All the revolutions and wars that were ever fought in the name of freedom came with a huge price tag. These brave souls give their all for freedom, for truth. They wanted to be set free because they have found the truth. Truth is like a sneeze, no matter how hard you try to suppress it, it will come out. Once you know the truth, you cannot help but to pry the chains of lies and deception and oppression free/loose.

The truth hurts at first, but then it will always perform the necessary healing that the soul needs. My dear readers, be truthful in love, be loving in the truth so that you can be free, so that you can set someone else free.

 

My First Love

The time doesn’t matter,

Age is of no importance.

What matters is that

We love(d) each other:

We love(d) the only way we knew how.

He did his best, I did even better.

We love(d) until the times change,

The circumstances became different,

And we fell apart;

I fell first.

I fell first because I love(d) best,

I love(d) strongest, purest, I did my best.

Love never change, but people do.

A New Dream

The world doesn’t have space for our love;

No, it doesn’t allocate a spot for us

To plant our love.

The world doesn’t give us a place to cultivate our love;

To grow it, prune it, harvest it

And reap the crops thereof.

The world is too cruel for our

Love, too bitterly unfair.

 

Thus, I must dream a new dream;

We must dream a new dream:

One without you, without me.

A dream where there’s nothing but space in a world where

we can love freely, liberally, though separately.

We must dream a new dream where

we can give the love that we couldn’t, shouldn’t keep for ourselves.

A Kind of Love

There is a kind of love that the ancients used to love with:

It was fierce, strong, very powerful.

The ancients loved freely, lovingly.

They gave love ALL that they’ve got.

This is the kind of love my grandparents loved with.

I’ve seen my grandmother loving

Each one of her children with this kind of love.

It is this kind of love that I want to love with:

It is free, it is kind, it is fierce.

I want to give love ALL that I’ve got.

I want to be loved with this kind of love.

Will you love with this kind of love?

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A very wise woman once told me, “Love is epidemic, but hatred is isolationist! It takes a special heart to give love unconditionally, and an evil heart to invest time in delusions, chaos and atrocities.”

There is a kind of love that you must thrive to love with. The kind of love that is ready to put it ALL on the line, to forsake anything that does not call itself love, and to pursue love as the ONLY thing that truly matters. You have to give love all that you’ve got.

This kind of love seems archaic now, but it needs a great awakening. The times are dire. There are hearts out there that are breaking, and falling apart piece by piece with no one to put them back together. Those hearts are crying out, “I am weak, I have no strength to call my own!”

Will you hear these broken hearts out? Will you love them with the ancient kind of love? Will you make the final decision to give love all that you’ve got?

I have given love all that I’ve got, all that is in me, and so much more. I have so much love to give, much more than I expect in return. I made a covenant with my heart to love with all of me and nothing less.

I will leave you with these encouraging words from a dearest friend, “Pick your heart up and trust that God will send someone who will permanently glue your heart back together.”

Giving Love a Chance

You are being too hard on yourself, you are being too hard on love. Will you give love a chance? Sometimes, we are quick to say, “I am done with love; love has hurt me, love has deceived me, love has failed me…”

But that is NOT so. Love has never hurt anyone; people hurt people, but not so with love. Don’t give up on love because of the hardness of people’s hearts; don’t blame love for people’s callousness.

At the end of it all, you have to WANT what you NEED; and love is what you need, what we all need.

The late doctor Martin Luther King, Jr. said it perfectly, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

The good news is when you have love, it is not yours alone; but hatred is heavy and it’s rarely shared…

So, go ahead and forgive yourself if you have given up on love. Love has always been there, all along, all for you. You just have to be opened for love, be opened to love.

Being Single

Sometimes you just want to be touched by another human being. You just want to be held, to be told that you matter; not that you don’t know it already, but because you want to hear the echo.

Sometimes you wonder, “Where’s my happily ever after? Has God forgotten about me”?

We are social creatures, we were not meant to live isolated lives. It is totally normal and natural and acceptable to feel the need to be in the company of others, or with someone dear to our hearts. These sentiments must not be frown upon because they are innate.

In Genesis 2:18, we read, “And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him’” (Genesis 2:18 KJV).

So there you have it, God puts it in our hearts to feel the need to be loved, to be longed for, to feel wanted…

So, what better person is there to ask for your ‘happily-ever-after’ than the One who implanted this desire in you, even before you were born?

And don’t think it’s just an adult thing to feel the need to be in relationships; it’s an every living creature thing; man and beast, even plants if you care to go that far.

So, next time you’re feeling down because of your single life, remember that you are not truly alone and that the person that God has for you will be for you no matter what life throws at you. It is okay to feel down some days, just don’t stay down there…Get up, show up, show out, and ask God for strength to wait for what you deserve.

Self-Abandonment

I do not claim to be an expert on DEPRESSION nor a victim of its tantalizing grip. But I have seen DEPRESSION; I met her four years ago, one night in the month of March. It was a few days after the dry Winter of Florida, and Spring was just around the corner. I had just returned from my afternoon class, and it was well after 8 pm.

I stopped by my next door neighbor to see how she was doing. Usually, she would sit outside on the porch and we would talk for a few minutes before I make my way to my own apartment. However, that night which was not quite Spring, she was already inside and invited me in when she heard my knocking.

That was when I came face to face with DEPRESSION: her eyes were red and puffy from weeping. She held her hands, finger to finger, and despite it not being too cold, she was trembling like leaves. She seemed so small and fragile and just downright frightened.

I couldn’t believe my eyes nor my ears as DEPRESSION  sat there and recounted to me how she has been living with this kind-hearted woman–my neighbor–for the past 26 years if not longer. She said that it started when she was still a teenage girl and her mother passed away after years of sickness and other mental illness. Then she lost her first husband after giving birth to their baby girl. Not long after that, her father passed away and subsequently her fiancé died. She said, “He [The fiancé] was the moon of my midnight sky. And when he suddenly died of a heart attack, my whole world plunged into complete darkness.”

I was all ears; I offered my sympathy, my prayers. She was so happy to see me because she said, “I was at my wit’s end. I didn’t know who to call…”

I want to emphasize once more that I am not claiming to know anything about DEPRESSION but it is my humble belief that DEPRESSION  stems from abandonment of the Self; yes, abandoning the Self in the past, at a place, and a time which exist no longer. The present Self either keeps visiting that same place over and over or it just abandons Itself there.

When this happens, the present Self cannot properly deal with the day-to-day of life. Something always seems to be lacking. DEPRESSION neglects the Self, thinking that this present Self is not deserving of life or of anything which brings joy and pleasure, sometimes even blaming the present Self for the things that took place in the past.

DEPRESSION  has a low-level of Self love; believing that everyone deserves to be loved, to be cherished, to be needed and wanted, except for her. DEPRESSION believes that any bad thing that happens to her is well deserved…

…but it is not so. You cannot abandon Yourself in the past while living in the present. It’s not even living if you’re stuck somewhere in the forgotten and distant past.

Living with DEPRESSION (as I came to find out from my neighbor that night) is no simple matter, and should not be taken lightly.

You have to be strict with DEPRESSION  and cast her out far from you. It is not an easy fight but it can be WON!

Reclaim Yourself from the past, come back to the present where a life full of joy and hope and love awaits YOU.

 

P.S. If you know someone living with depression, be a listening ear. Sometimes, that is all that is needed.

True NAKEDNESS

It is so easy to undress yourself before someone you have come to know intimately. So simple to just bare IT ALL, even before a stranger; I know because I did it in boot camp before lots of strange women. After having done that a couple more times, the process became easier and more natural.

How easy is that!

…but can you handle true NAKEDNESS? Do you have the stamina to confide in another soul? To let someone else witness all of your fears, all of your hurts, all of your dreams, all of your past, all of your faults and shortcomings and mistakes, all of the different combinations that make you you, UNIQUE…?

Do you have the courage to let them in and see all of your loves, all of your rage, all of your scars, all of you…?

It’s not so easy now, is it?

In life, you will undoubtedly be naked many times, before a few small numbers of people perhaps, but ONLY a selected few, if even that, will witness your being TRULY NAKED.

It is not easy to let someone see you in all of your elements, to let them in your heart, in your life after so many collateral damages have been done.

After that, it is much easier, I’ll admit, to just lock your heart in a prison cell and throw away the key in the Atlantic Ocean…

It is not easy to cover yourself and uncover yourself before someone else after your true NAKEDNESS has been exposed and violated and trampled upon, after a solemn promise has been broken, a trust has been shattered to pieces…

So no, it is NOT an easy matter at all to be truly naked one time too many.

I know and I understand that.

Yet, you will have to find the strength, the willpower to do it again: to be genuine, to be kind, to be right, to be true, to be YOU…to ONE MORE PERSON.

Don’t lock away your heart simply because it has been fragmented; use it and take your mind with you wherever you decide to take your heart…

LOVE Matters

 

We all have hopes and dreams and goals that we wish and thrive to accomplish. We wake up early in the morning, we stay up late at night, all in an effort to do better, be better than we did, we were yesterday. Sometimes we dubb ourselves with various self-congratulatory words and phrases: “I’m an overachiever, I work hard, I’m a go-getter, I’m the best at what I do, etcetera”…But have you thought for one moment  that maybe there’s more out there: more to do, more to be? Is life really all about our daily routines and aiming for the zenith? What about LOVE? What if we could say: “I’m an over-lover, I LOVE hard, I’m a love-getter, I’m the best at loving, etcetera”…LOVE is really all that Matters. This is the only thing that we are truly required to share with others. We don’t have to sound the trumpet when it comes to expressing our LOVE for others because LOVE is actually deaf.

However, if we take the time to show others (by our actions) that we LOVE them, then they will know that we truly LOVE them. Parents, especially need to show unconditional LOVE to their children. As parents, you are the first line of defense; you are all that your child will ever know about LOVE: You are LOVE PERSONIFIED in your child’s eyes. Therefore, it is imperative that you not only tell your children that you LOVE them, but more importantly this LOVE needs to be expressed in actions. LOVE Matters in the home so much more than outside the home.

There is so much hatred out there and so little love. Will you take a stand for LOVE? Will you LOVE even if loving is slowly going out of style? Really, in the end ONLY LOVE MATTERS: the love you receive and the one you give away. One day we will all stand before our Creator, and we will have to answer to Him when He asks us, “What did you do with LOVE: the one that you received and the one that you DID NOT give away”? We cannot afford to be so preoccupied with life that we put LOVE on the back burner. LOVE MATTERS. Every night, before you head to bed, ask yourself this simple question: “Have I LOVE today?” If the answer is “No”, you have tomorrow, a second chance to LOVE.